The Drama that is my life

Oh the drama of my life. These days I just don't know where to begin. So at work on Thursday I had a huge argument with my boss. I asked him for feedback on why I wasn't given an interim promotion. He is a good friend of mine and I wanted honest feedback. Well, he decided we should do it over IM since he didn't want to go anywhere to talk. Anyway, he ended up saying a bunch of stuff that he couldn't or refused to back up. I am very frustrated. Now he won't talk to me at all. I don't know what to do. I do not want this to affect our friendship but it already is. I can't figure out what the deal is. I don't want him to give me preferential treatment at work just because I am his friend but I don't expect to be treated like an idiot especially since he has told me in the past how much he admires me at work. I know I have things to work on just as anyone does. But if he can't give me honest feedback and give me examples of things that I am doing then I cannot change. I am so pissed about the whole situation and now everything is going to be all fucked up at work. I don't want to put my other friends in the middle of everything but I need their advice, I don't want them to pick sides because we are all friends but I just don't know what else to do. I can't keep going through all of this. I am really just thinking about quitting. I don't know how I am going to do that because I don't think I'm going to be able to find another job that will pay me as much and be as flexible with my schedule. I also cannot continue to work in that kind of environment.
So I got a pleasant surprise on Saturday. You know when you watch those movies where the guy and girl are good friends and somehow in the end they end up together and you always dream of something romantic like that happening to you? So, a great friend of mine spent the day with me helping me shop for a car on Friday and then came over and worked on my computer and I made dinner and we watched a movie with the kids. He wrote all about it in his blog the next day and at the end left me a very surprising message that I really didn't think was for me. I asked him who it was actually for and he blew me away by telling me that he has loved me for a long time! I couldn't believe it....I thought he was joking around with me and it took me about 10 or 15 mins to decide that he really wasn't. I still can't believe it, I am in total shock and awe over the whole thing. I liked him as more than a friend a long time ago and thought at first that he felt the same way but then I came to the conclusion that he didn't so I just pushed it out of my mind and let it be. I feel like such an ass now knowing that this whole time he has been totally falling for me and I have been sitting here telling him all about these relationships that I want and have had. I was totally clueless! He is an amazing man and makes me want so badly to make myself better and has made me feel that way for a long time. He pushes me to be more, do to things I know I can do but have never had the courage to do. I can tell him anything and have shared more of myself with him than I have anyone in my life including my parents. I have said for years that I wanted to be married to my best friend and I still believe that.
Just when I feel like things are finally starting to fall in to place in my life and then some part of it falls apart again. It's like a sand castle, you get it where it's almost perfect and along comes a wave that washes half of it out. That's kind of how I feel right now, I'm starting to get my love life more where I want it and down comes the side that has been so stable and has been holding everything else together....my job.