In Response....

I'm sorry that you feel like I was irresponsible and that you are hurt because I didn't spend a lot of time with you this weekend. I don't want you to feel hurt but I will not allow you to make me feel bad because I was spending time with my mother who I don't see very often anymore. There is nothing wrong with that. You were more than welcome to come with us but you cannot expect me to always do what you want to do and then be mad at me because I didn't. I love being around you and the more things we do together the happier I am. That being said I don't want you to come if you don't want to and are just going to bitch and moan the whole time, that is much worse than not having you there at all. You make it out like I am being extremely selfish and I don't care about anyone else but that is not at all the case and I think you know it. I'm sorry I spent $25 to feed my family when I didn't absolutely have to but you did the exact same thing when we went to Merrit's when I was doing the budget. I let it go and took the money out of savings for it. You know damn well that I am not a big spender and that I am even more anal about keeping money in savings than you are. How do you think I managed to keep myself and my kids going for 3 years without you. I always had money in savings, I may not have had a full pantry but we had food on the table and the kids had a nice christmas and everything else. That was all me. It really frustrates me that you act like I'm so irresponsible, from the time you handed the budget over this semester you have been watching my back and hounding me and then telling me that I have to take care of it. Well I can if I have to. I don't like it because it is stressful for me. So yes, I would rather you take care of it because you do a pretty great job of it but don't you dare say that I am irresponsible and that you have the last say on the money. Since when has it ever been that way? We have always in the past both taken the stance that the money is a joint thing that we decide on together. Whenever possible we talk to each other about spending money on just about everything. I don't feel like this should have become this huge issue that you have made it out to be. I don't go out every day and spend money. In fact I very seldomly spend any money at all. I am a huge tightwad. In general I spend less money than you do so don't lecture me about being irrepsonsible. I don't think you are irresponsible because you spend more money than I do and obviously you don't think you are either so I don't understand where you get that I am irresponsible because I didn't tell you before hand or because I spent money on something you wouldn't have.